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Promise of Consistency

Promise of Consistency

Promise of Consistency

Have you ever seen something old, that you see everyday, for the very first time?  This happened to me recently while headed to work.
On this particular morning I hadn’t had a chance to eat, so as I sat at a stop light my eyes quite naturally landed on a restaurant sign nearby.
The sign read: Popeye’s (underneath that) Chicken and Biscuits
My eyes lingered on the biscuit portion on the sign for a while. Mmmmm…mmmmm…mmmmm!! I could taste the buttery warmth of a Popeye’s biscuit in my mouth just by reading those words.
My hunger gaze was soon interrupted by another observation about this sign. I had never noticed this before, but at the top of the sign in smaller font was a powerful message.
“Established in 1972”
This was Popeye’s unspoken promise of consistency.  In other words they are basically saying, “Chicken and biscuits is what we do. We’ve been doing this for 41 years. If it’s chicken and biscuits you want…we’re here for you…you can trust us!”
This got me thinking a bit…
What’s my promise of consistency?
For Popeye’s it’s chicken and biscuits, but what would mine be? What would yours be?
Could my promise be:
TriadnetInc – L.I.I.F.E and Service to Humanity...“Established in 2013
”
…or maybe it’s different depending on who and where…
I’ve been a leader within the same company for the past years.
At work is it:
Ayandiran wale – Fair, Courteous, IT Geek, Gets the Problem Solved and Listening Leader,
That’s my goal…that’s what I’d like my promise of consistency to be…
But…that doesn’t matter if my friends and coworkers don’t think so.
What’s your promise of consistency?
Would your friends, family and coworkers agree?
What have you established about yourself that has now become your brand?

I’m going to ask a few people about mine.
You probably should too…
Whether you ask…or whether you don’t…the fact will still remain that everyday you’re establishing something about yourself that other people can easily see.
As for me…I want to know.  That’s the only way I can work to make meaningful, personal change.  So if the promise of consistency I wrote above isn’t necessarily true…it will be 10 years from now.
Because in 2023, a promise of consistency ‘Established in 2013’ is pretty powerful!

LETTING GO

Letting Go

LET IT GO

Have you been dumped, betrayed or left so heartbroken that you didn't ever want to love again? Are you still stuck on an ex and don't know how to move on? And how do you know when it's time to let go and look for love somewhere else?

Are your standards too low? "What is it about you that causes you to settle for somebody that you know will cheat on you, know will lie to you, know will make a commitment and then break it? What is it about you that you believe about yourself that you're willing to settle for that?"Recognize that you're settling and that you deserve more. Set a higher standard for yourself.

Chances are you're longing for the relationship that you wish it could be, and that you want to be in love with the person you wish they were. "There are times when you break up with somebody and you start missing them and you start thinking about all the good things and then you're back with them for about 10 minutes and you go 'Oh yeah! Now I remember why I hate you!'"Don't kid yourself about what it was really like or glorify the past.

Don't wait around because you think they are going to change. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior- Smith Michael

Don't put your life on hold. Every minute you spend focusing on your ex is a minute that's holding you back from a better future. As long as you are obsessed with your ex, you will never put your heart, soul and mind into getting your life in order and starting another relationship if you want one.

"Set some goals and start putting your life back together. Ask yourself: Are. you hiding in the relationship so you don't have to face the reality of being on your own? Don't stay with someone because it's comfortable and safe. It may seem more secure, but it's not healthy for you and it certainly won't help you get to a better place. Why would you want to settle and waste your life away just to avoid getting back in the game?

Make that perfect move now and just ''LET IT GO''.

Patience

Patience

 PATIENCE

Patience of (forbearing) is the state of endurance under difficult circumstances, which can mean persevering in the face of delay or provocation without acting on annoyance/anger in a negative way; or exhibiting forbearance when under strain, especially when faced with longer-term difficulties.  according to wikipedia .

Taking it drom all religious perspective, PATIENCE is one of the Most Important Virtues any true person loyal to his/her religion should posses in any circumstances. 

Patience is the level of endurance one can take before negativity. It is also used to refer to the character trait of being steadfast
There is a blessing in calamity that the wise man should not ignore, for it;
     * Erases sins, 
     * Gives one the opportunity to attain the reward for patience,
     * Dispels negligence,
     * Reminds one of blessings at the time of health,
     * Calls one to repent and encourages one to give charity and endure.

Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better take things as they come along with patience and equanimity.

 Life is a learning curve and the challenges are there to make us stronger and to condition us and build us emotionally, spiritually and physically for the greater challenges that we will encounter tomorrow. Outwardly circumstances may be perceived as hardships but in reality they may really be blessings in disguise.

“The ability to discipline yourself to delay gratification in the short term in order to enjoy greater rewards in the long term is the indispensable pre-requisite for success Brian Tracy 

"Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success."
Napoleon Hill 

CHOICE

CHOICE

CHOICES

What is the single force that shapes the quality of our lives? What power do we have that can change everything? As you and I both know, the answer is the power of choice.

I've had the unique opportunity to see people in the midst of real challenges, whether its the professional athlete who wants to regain his competitive edge, the business leader who wants to expand her influence or the political leader who struggles with a difficult decision. I may not have all the answers (who does?), but after working with so many people and observing the patterns that make them succeed or fail, one thing I am sure of is this: It is our decisions, not our conditions, that determine the quality of our lives.

Take a look at your own life. Are you where you want to be? Are you as healthy or financially secure or as happy in your relationships as you would like to be? Or, even if things are going well, are you looking for that extra edge to retain the competitive advantage? Perhaps you feel that in spite of your success, there’s more out there for you, but for some reason, you haven't grasped it yet. Your first instinct may be to blame the economy, or the housing market, or someone who has treated you unfairly.

Before we go any further, we need to understand that we are where we are today because of the decisions we've made—decisions about what to focus on, decisions about where to place our priorities, decisions about what things mean and decisions about what to do. For example, if your business or career has been affected by the recession, do you feel that you are being punished or challenged to find a new path? What are you going to do about it? Are you going to give up or give more? No matter what we have experienced in the past, our history is not our destiny—we all have the power to make new decisions today.
Here’s another way to look at it: Success is a result of good judgment; good judgment is a result of experience, in most cases. And what about experience? Yes, experience is most often a result of bad judgment.
So here’s the good news: The experience gained from bad judgment and bad decisions is unbelievably valuable—it’s priceless! So don’t waste time beating yourself up over poor decisions you’ve made; learn from the experiences. Really, failure is actually one of the best ways we learn. When people succeed, they celebrate. When they fail, they ponder. They stop and think, What happened here? What could I have done differently? It’s only through self-evaluation that we learn how to make better decisions. So, when you make mistakes, learn from them; use your experience to improve your judgment and make better decisions.

ASUU strike; A blessing in disguise for undergraduates.

ASUU strike; A blessing in disguise for undergraduates.

This write up is inspired by a report I read which has it that the strike embarked upon by ASUU since July 2, 2013 has forced many students in Abeokuta and its environs to register for various vocational
trainings *raised eyebrows*.

The strike may be a blessing in disguise as many of the students may end up using the trade learnt
while it lasted to better their lives in future, but as laudable as this initiative of the undergraduates may be, I have one fear for them which is that the strike may be called off at any moment thus putting the kibash on the completion of their trainings.

In other news, it is a common knowledge that Nigeria has enough clairvoyants. In fact, the country is brimming with them. From the gods of men in Lagos synagogues to the ordinary man at the street corner who would always correctly tell you the team to carry a match even when the game is still afoot *grin*.

We have them here. It is just that they have not redirected their ability to this all-important area so needed by Nigerians. Given their wizardry in the act, I don’t want to believe that telling when a strike would end is too much a thing for them to foresee. No it can’t be, not when these men stay in Nigeria and predict what is to happen overseas and it happens just as they presaged. Better still, any of the two sides to the trade dispute should be magnanimous to let us know the length of days the strike would take, for both of them are in a position to so has to waste undergraduates time.

Finally, a big congratulations to those undergraduates that are making good use of this strike to add value to themselves, because sincerely,its going to be a thing of a shame that any undergraduate will return to school after the strike without adding any value to himself due to the excuse of not knowing when the strike will be over.
Not taking risk is the biggest risk.
At the end those that take risk achieve greater heights.

Other undergraduates, its better late than never. You can start something now so as to make the strike days count.

"You have as many days as you make use of in a year, don't be deceived by the calendar"....#AnchorQuotes

Schooling and Education: The misapprehension!!!

Schooling and Education: The misapprehension!!!

Theoretically, everyone all around the world believes that learning through teaching,training or research which has effect in the way one thinks, feels or acts is educational, but in these part of the world, it is practically dissimilar.

To start with, an average Nigerian even thinks when someone can't communicate in our official language (English), the person isn't educated. So the misconception therein is that we empirically restrict schooling (6-3-3-4) to education.

So therefore, to understand my views, a change of thought on language bigotry is required. You need to understand that language is no barrier in education. Wether Hindu, Arabic, Efik, tapa, igbo, hausa,yoruba etc

Furthermore, it is widely believed in Nigeria that going to school, which authentically is one of the several means of education, guarantees a bright future for individuals, neglecting that schooling will only give you the knowledge of the field you require to study and also make you literate and not secure for you your actual future.
To paraphrase Bishop David Oyedepo, "Schooling will only make you literate,but your investments in literatures will get you your actual future".

Let me briskly remind you that the "literatures" as mentioned by the bishop is language free i.e it could be in yoruba language or any other.

To buoy up Nigerians misapprehension of education and schooling, we celebrate certificates while in other part of the world they celebrate discoveries.
A person with a Masters certificate is ranked above a first degree holder, believing that a degree holder is less educated.

Let's get pragmatic now.

Education is obligatory for a bright future but not necessarily schooling.
A person who understands buying and selling is educated even though she can't speak all languages.
Understanding this will bring an end to our delusion about schooling and education.

Mark Zuckerberg dropped out of Harvard when he discovered that schooling won't get him his actual future but education will, so through learning and research outside school he started Facebook.

I studied everything but never topped but the toppers of the best universities are my employees....Bill Gate.
That was possible for the Microsoft boss and arguably the richest man on earth because he understood the difference between education and schooling.

So, end your fallacy now and enjoy a bias free life and a more assuring future by opting for education and also understanding the big difference.

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